Has there ever been a time when you were so sure of something only to find out at a later time you were mistaken or misinformed about the truth involving the person or event? I know I have experience the many, many times. I have even argued in direct opposition to the truth for years some times to later learn I was actually wrong about the whole thing. I would like to think you and I are intelligent and view ourselves as a well-intentioned people. If this has happened to you too, how could this happen to us so many times before? What can we do to avoid this mistake in the future?
Getting the best results in our life is really a two part process. In my last post I shared how to start asking the question, “What is the best?” for the results we want to create in every area of our lives. That is the first step. We must do this if we truly want to live an extraordinary life. Life is a journey. Just like going on a road trip we have to know where we want to go before our GPS can give us directions on how to get there. This is why we must first determine what the best results are before we can determine what our next steps should be.
Have you ever asked yourself this question? I know I did for many years. I would observe people who were finding more success than me in many endeavors and I would just repeat that question over and over again in my mind. The problem was this is a disempowering question and I would just come up with a list of reasons I was not getting opportunities. I realized my focus shouldn’t be one why I did not get opportunities, but it should be on what I could do in order to get more opportunities. Here are the three things I realized I could do to gain more opportunities.
Have you ever made a decision that you wound up regretting? I know I have more times than I would like to admit. I am willing to bet all of us have made decisions that did not turn out how we intended them to. Sometimes there can be serious consequences for these poor decisions we make. Have you ever looked back on that decision and thought, “How could I have been so dumb?” or “Why didn’t I see that coming?” Again, I know I have. What if I told you there was a question you could have asked that could have helped you decide differently and avoid almost any poor decision you have ever made? Would you be interested?
What if I told you that you could make drastic improvements in your life by simply asking the right questions? Would you believe me? Well it is absolutely true. Here is a simple phrase I encourage you to integrate into your life:
In The Traveler’s Gift: Seven Decisions that Determine Personal Success, Andy Andrews reveals to us the second decision to determine personal success is, “Today I will seek wisdom.” There are several ways to seek wisdom. One of the most important and life changing decisions I ever made was to find a mentor and submit myself to the mentoring process
I have noticed some debates going on recently regarding minimum wage and potential consequences both good and bad if the minimum wage was increased. I have my thoughts about this issue, but that is not what I want to discuss here. A truth I learned several years ago from Andy Andrews is the quality of our answers is determined by the quality of our questions. What if the question, “Should minimum wage be increased?” is the entirely wrong question to be asking? What if we could ask a better question and help others to ask a better question that would remove the entire need to debate this issue at all?